Just because a person has a TITLE in your life,
doesn’t mean they deserve a position in your heart.
You deserve better, so stop settling.
Guys – I have gotten this wrong for so many years and it has cost me dearly!!! It has destroyed my self-worth, taken my time and energy and broken my heart!!! Crushed. Smashed. Obliterated.
Just because a person has a TITLE in your life, doesn’t mean they deserve a position in your heart.
Y’all – I had formed in my mind that their TITLE – ENTITLED them to all of me!
I was giving a VIP pass to people who should have had a one-way ticket to keep moving along; they didn’t appreciate me, value the deep places of my heart, or respect me – but they had a TITLE!! Ugh! Why didn’t I know? How come I didn’t see?
My wrong thinking gave them my whole heart, unguarded, no boundaries; all of me. My wrong thinking – thought that because of their TITLE – we were supposed to be close and we were supposed to be friends. In my mind… people with this TITLE were supposed to be … But it was always a one-way venture. It was always a one-sided relationship. And it left me feeling used and abused.
Is This You??? Do you know what I’m talking about?
Have you given your whole self away to a person because they have a TITLE?
Have you ended up giving away the best parts of yourself – to be trampled upon? Are you giving your whole heart away to people who don’t respect or show you love or consideration? Are you giving too much, sharing too much- at the expense of your SELF?
Guys – ultimately… this is what lead to destroy my self-worth, peace, and joy. It has taken time and energy – that I could have used to do other things in my life with other people – but instead I gave it away to a person… with a TITLE.
Y’all – Their actions are showing you who they really are and what they are willing to give. Their actions should be an ARROW that points you in another direction. Take it as a sign to move on along – not as a sign that reflects who you are – but to direct you to someplace different. And, might I add, their actions reflect their own heart. But their actions need to point you away from them- to people who hold you dear.
Just because a person has a title in your life, doesn’t mean they deserve a position in your heart.
Laurie Krawchuk
Who are you giving a position to in your heart, because of their TITLE?
Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
Matthew 7:6 NIV
THE SOLUTION
- I realized that the TITLE of someone doesn’t ENTITLE them to my whole heart; time, effort and energy.
- I stopped giving my pearls (the best parts of me) to people who didn’t value me- no matter WHO they were.
- I had to let go of the picture in my head; that just because someone has a TITLE in your life- doesn’t mean you’re going to be close, best friends, appreciated, love or respected by them.
Don’t let your expectations and beliefs lead you astray any longer. Just because a person has a TITLE in your life, doesn’t mean they deserve a position in your heart. A TITLE doesn’t mean that they will treat you with the love and respect you deserve!
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Much love and grace, Laurie
